Connecting youth

A cultural exchange between the youth of Denmark and Uganda

Videos: Loneliness

Gender roles

Gender roles

Gender roles referes to the attitudes and behaviors of a gender, for example women usually cook and clean while men fixes the car and takes care of all the technical stuff.

In Denmark this is different though, If a woman is better at fixing the car than the man, then thats her job, and if the man is better at cooking that the woman then the man does the cooking. Women and men can have the exact same jobs and are allowed to work anywhere as long as they have the qualifications.

Eisbjerghus 2009-09-03
Nikolai Steno & Markus Christiansen

Peer pressure

Peer pressure

In Denmark, there is a lot of peer pressure in the schools, whether it’s serious or not so serious. It’s really important for many young people to be a part of the popular group at school or outside school. You want to feel accepted by the popular ones, to be invited for all the parties and all the other stuff they are doing in their spare time. To be accepted you can’t stand out too much, you have to wear the same kind of clothes and do the things that are normal. That pressure to be accepted sometimes causes you to do things you don’t really want to do. That could be smoking or drinking for example. All of your friends are smoking and they want you to try it as well. Then they might say things as: “Just try it, are you afraid?” or “everyone else does it.” In most cases you will just give in to the pressure and do what the peer want you to do.

It can also be in a situation, when you are young and you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, and you’re not ready to have sex. But if everyone else has tried it, they might sort of press you into doing it.

Written by Alberte, Emma and Thea - Eisbjerghus Efterskole.

Loneliness

All by myself

This is a story about a girl who is struggling with herself, trying to deal with the simple thing as the daily life at home and at school.

Hi, my name is Anna.

I’m 16 years old and I live in a city called Odense in Denmark. My family is a very typical Danish family. I have a mother and a father but I have no siblings, I’m an only child. As almost everybody else these days, my parents are getting a divorce. They told me 3 months ago. I was really upset at first, now I’m sort of getting used to the idea. I have no choice, I guess. I can’t change it. Maybe it’s for the best. They were fighting all the time, and maybe this sounds selfish, but they kind of forgot about me, because they were busy yelling at each other all the time. I had to do everything by myself! Now I get a little more attention, I think… Maybe they feel bad about the divorce. But still … I wish it could go back to normal. Here after the divorce has been official, I have been a bit sad. - Or actually pretty sad to be honest. I feel alone at home and also at school. I don’t really talk to anybody. It’s like no one notices me... that’s just how I feel. I know I can blame myself for some of it. I am shy and I am really not good at socializing. I don’t know what to say when people ask me something, so now they have just stopped questioning me. I have never been good at it, but it has definitely gotten worse after the divorce. There have been so many other things at home at the same time, so to concentrate on one thing, is difficult. But a thing which is impossible to avoid seeing is, that my class is divided in two. - The popular and the not so popular ones. I don’t think I’m a part of that system, I’m just there. To be popular you have to wear the right clothes, the right brand. Otherwise you are not “in”. I don’t think of my clothes as being of any importance, no one notices it anyway, so what’s the point? I don’t have someone who says: “Hey, that’s a nice shirt.” I don’t have a best friend. I’m never invited when my class mates are having a party or when they are hanging out together after the school day is over. When I come home I usually do my homework, sit at the computer or read a book. But I have a hard time focusing when I know what all my class mates are doing. Talking, laughing and having a good time… together. And I’m just sitting by myself… alone.

Many young people ends up in a situation like this with divorced parents. That has an affection on every child. It’s different how the child handles it, though. Some keeps on going as usually, some hides it, some becomes reserved. Some feel lonely because they have no one to turn to. No shoulder to cry on. Mostly it changes something in you no matter what.

Written by Alberte, Emma and Thea – Eisbjerghus Efterskole

Loneliness: Life in cyberspace

In Denmark we are very far ahead at the area of modern technology.Especially the youth of Denmark are heavy users of the computer and therefore familiar with its possibilities such as the Internet, writing programs, music and video players etc.On the computer, the Internet is the most used program. It’s different from boys to girls, what they use the internet for. Boys usually use it for video games and chat programs, while the girls are much more active on for example Facebook( a social networking site, where you share pictures, life experiences and other personal information). But they have one thing in common; they use the Internet to communicate with other people. If you are very lonely, some people also use it to make new friends and discuss their problems. It can be reliving to get a constructive perspective on your problems from an anonymous person. They have perhaps been exposed to the same, so they therefore have the ability to share their experience with the troubled person. Usually lonely people don’t have the strength to express their personality, afraid of no one’s approval.On the Internet they can act out their creativity and personality on their own way without anyone judging them and this can be a way of getting more self-esteem.

Written by Thea, Alberte and Emma - Eisbjerghus Efterskole

Bullying

If a person gets bullied, at school, at work, anywhere, it affects you in some way.
When people stand together they seem strong. They support each other. When you stand alone in front of that group of people you often feel weaker. - When it comes to a group bullying one person, it’s really the other way around. The group has to pick on somebody to feel good about themselves. That’s a weakness sign. But still they can make that one particular person feel very little and negligible, very fast. That brings us to the word, loneliness. If the person who is being bullied has no one to rely on, it can be hard just to ignore the bullying. One’s self-esteem gets very low. You feel like you have to go through everything alone. People function in groups, not being by themselves. That’s simply our nature.

Written by Alberte, Emma and Thea - Eisbjerghus Efterskole.

Human rights

Human rights in Denmark

In Denmark, women and men are equal, and it is illegal to discriminate the two sexes.
All have equal duties and equal rights. All have their right to decide over themselves, their life, and their body. They earn their own money and take responsibility for themselves. Both men and women have to take responsibility for their children, and pay taxes, to participate in society.
We also have ethnic equality, and that means that everyone, regardless of background, faith and
colour, are equally in the Danish society.

Although the above is written in the law, there is far less female managers in Danish companies. But it is getting better.

Frederik Klausen & Esben Henriksen – Eisbjerghus Efterskole 2009/10

Youth in Denmark and Uganda

Being young in Denmark

Relationships:

In Denmark in the kindergarten we already make small love life relationships. There we play mom, dad and children, kissing for fun on the cheeks and having a good time doing everyday stuff as making food, sleeping etc.

When we get older, by the age of 7-9, boys and girls kind of “hate” each other. In that childish way, like saying “you have boy lice!” or you have “You have girl lice!” And that keeps going on till about the age of 13-14.

When boys and girls become at the age of 13-14 we begin to get interested in each other and then there begin to have serious relationships with kissing each other. When we become 16-17 of years there are some that begin to have sex and more romantic things begin to happen. Go canoeing on a river, to the movies, make dinner for each other etc..

Basically relationships are based on trust to each other and same interests. In most relationships here in Denmark depends on besides trust also on respect. Both genders are equal.

Spare time activities:

Most Danish youth have a sport or hobby they go to in there spare time. There is all kind of activities, everything for martial arts to drawing. They use also their spare time with friends were they hang out, talk, go to the movies, shop etc..

Some also sit at home and game computer, and use that as entertainment. And others just do sport day in and day out. There is also kind of hot websites the Danish youth use al lot, like facebook. Almost all young people have a profile. Some can use hours on this webpage.

In the weekends some young people party, play drinking games and get drunk. The parties are mostly held by one host who has great speakers and then they turn up the music to the
maximum volume.

Friendships:

As in relationship, friendships are also based on trust, respect and somehow same interests. Here in Denmark, we have a lot of sarcasm so we use it in everyday life with each other. Especially the youth uses it. Like when someone has dropped a glass bowl and It shatters in too many pieces, another person would say: “good job” with a smile on his or hers face.

In friendships here in Denmark you can make fun of each other, without mentally hurting. But friends in Denmark do many things together. Go shopping, swim, play games, party, go to the movies etc.. Most Danish youth have about 5 friends in there near area. It is common that boys and girls are friends.

Philip Lund
Skals Continuation School

Interest/Activities of Danish youth

In Denmark the youth culture is very open. The most common phrase among the young peoples parents is: Freedom under responsibility. That means that the young people can do whatever they want, but they always have to consider the consequences.
Examples:

1. Socializing with your friends: Talking, listening to music, go to the movies, playing games, surfing the internet

2. Party: Drinking, dancing, having fun, meet other people

3. Hobbies: Sports: Soccer, Handball, Swimming, American football, Tennis, Ping Pong, Basketball, Gymnastics

Challenges of the Danish youth - Peer Pressure

In Denmark Peer Pressure is a very big problem. Many teenagers in Denmark are having problems with Peer Pressure for example at parties. Some teenagers are being pressured to drink, smoke or even do drugs. In Denmark drugs are strictly illegal. In Denmark the drinking age is 16 years, so that might be one of the reasons why we are the most drinking youth culture in the world.

Family

In Denmark the family is one of the most important things in their everyday life. In Denmark there is no gender discrimination, the mother is as equal as the father in the relationship. When the dinner is on, the whole family sits around a table and eats together while talking about their day.

Daniel T. HansenSkals Continuation School

Discipline in Denmark

In Denmark, we do not look on discipline like in many other countries. It isn’t so important to us, but that can sometimes be a problem. Especially teenagers don’t always respect if they’re parents tell them not to drink alcohol; there will always be someone who won’t listen.

But of course we respect each other. We just show our respect in different ways, like the way we respect other people’s opinion: in Denmark you have the right to say what you want, to express your opinion in a lot of ways – if just you remember to respect other people.

For example, when we greet our parents – or any other adults – we just say hi. We don’t call them ‘Mrs.’ or ‘Sir’ or anything, we just talk to them almost like they were at our age.

At home, ‘Daddy’ still has big authority. But it’s not like the mother doesn’t have as much authority as the father, it’s just because the mother almost in every family use to be the most emotional parent, where the father do the scolding part. But in Demark, parents can’t hit their children to make discipline. Teachers can’t do it either, because it isn’t legal*. Children have the right to feel save in their home and school, and so the adults can get to prison if they hit anyone. Discipline in Denmark is not about violence, but more about laws. If for example you attack someone, or hit someone seriously, you can get a ruling, or a ticket.

In school, discipline is also very important. Even though the teachers can’t hit the children, there is still so many ways of making discipline in class. If the kids don’t behave, the teacher can scold them, sometimes a detention or if it’s really bad, they can get expelled.

*The Danish law says that no one can hit each other, which means that the teacher or husband (or wife) is not allowed to hit one another.

In 'Universal Declaration of Human Rights' there are laws about Civil and political rights and social, economic and cultural rights, and over a 100 countries have signed it.

The civil and the political rights have points like:
- Freedom to have your own opinion, believe in what you want and to express yourself.
- Privacy.
The social, economic and cultural rights have points like:
- Medical help.
- Rights for education.

By
Amalie Lykkeskov, Nina Lykke Sørensen

Social life

It is very easy to be social in Denmark, because we have a lot of aftershcool activities.
Every small, or big town, have a sport community. In that community, theres a lot of activities, like football, you guys might call it soccer? Then theres is handball. We don´t know if you guys know what that is? Very short, it´s a game with two teams. Actually it´s a lot like football, but the big difference is that you use your hands instead of the feets. You can also play rocketball, or tennis. Those sports are the most average you play, when you live in Denmark.

In school days danish youth don´t have very much time to do all kind of fun stuff. But in the weekends we love to party, or go to the movietheatres. Or mainly just hang out with our friends. If you are low on cash, many young people have a sparetime job, beside the shcool.

All in all we are very social, but we don´t have a big urge to do all kind of fancy stuff together. Sitting with the friends and listen to music, or watch a movie, is enough.

Eisbjerghus Efterskole.
Made by; Simone Madsen, Thomas Petersen and Patrick Bergmann

School systems

In Denmark we go to school from Monday to Friday, and then we have the weekend free for other activities. There are different kinds of schools, some are owned by the state, others are owned by persons. In Denmark it is a law, that everybody has to go to school for 9 years. Parents aren’t paying for their children to go to school, the state is paying. It is typical for a student to take the bus, bicycle or walk to school. Students are going to school around 8 in the morning until 2 or 3 in the afternoon. In the afternoon we have time to make our homework’s and be with our friends.

Typical classes have 20-25 students and different teachers for different subjects. So we have many different teachers, one for Danish and history.. One for English.. One for biology and so on. Besides that we have 2 lessons of gymnastics a week. So we got about 6 different teachers, and besides that the school got a principal, secretary and other staff, who run the school.

Boys and girls are in the same class. It is a very free environment, because we dress in whatever we want and we sit wherever we want, and we call the teacher by first name. So we decide for ourselves and therefore we are very independent. In class the students are making different exercises and projects, also group work. During the year the students work with different topics in each lesson, such as grammar in English. In the end of the year students in 9th grade take their exam and finish primary school. Afterwards finishing 9th grade, the students can choose between different educations. You can choose between business school, gymnasium, 10th grade or something else. From there your education is your own responsibility.

Laura Hjortkjær
Skals Continuation School

Boarding schools:

A boarding school is a place where students study, but it is also a place where students live. In Denmark we go to boarding school for a year, or 10 month. Or you can choose to stay on the school for two years. This cost from 30,000 kr. (11,889,092.78 Ugandan Shillings) to 50,000 kr. (19,815,154.63 Ugandan Shilling's).

Boarding school is optional, but before you go to boarding school, you have to go through an elementary school. It is a 9 year education, and it is a law that you have to go through it in Denmark.

In Denmark boarding school is only 9th and 10th grade. But there are few schools in Denmark we call private schools, where you also can go for more than two years. A private school is a school founded by the students parents and are independent of the locals and the government. Here they have their own rules and laws.

In the boarding school there are normally from 100 to 200 students, they all live together and have to be around each other every day. But it is normal to go home in the weekends and you have to go home during the holidays.

Christoffer K. Stæhr
Skals Continuation School

Danish Schools (Eisbjerghus)

In Denmark we have the school for young children, and teenagers. It named secondary school.. You’re starting when you’re 7 years old, until you’re 16 years old. There is 1-9class. Its compulsory that you had take those classes. Its just like every others schools in others country. You have to learn our language (Danish) –German, mat, English and many others thing I’m sure you’re learning in your country too. Many kids who ‘s going in Danish school isn’t thanks full, because they really don’t know how it is in many others countries, example in the most of Africa – their don’t have the money, to built a school. Or the parents don’t have the money.. Denmark is one of the most rich countries in Europe, so we have the money. But we haven’t tried something else in others countries, so we don’t know what is like to don’t have a school. And then the most of us hate is, its taking all of our time (we’re think) – but the school and the teachers just want to help us.

After 9th class you can take 10th class, like I am doing at Eisbjerghus, which is an ‘’Efterskole’’.. It’s something you do if you’re isn’t ready to high school. But if you’re ready after 9th class, then you can take high school. I am taking high school after this year, and then I’m ready for high school – I hope.

Sheena, Eisbjerghus 09/10

In Denmark we have some schools we call boarding schools. It´s some schools where students from 14 to 18 years can go and live for a year, and they live there and get many new friends and a lot of impressions. There are 263 boarding schools in Denmark, and the one I live on is named Eisbjerghus and is on the island of Fionie. On my boarding school we live 121 people side by side, in the year 2009 – 2010.

In Denmark our Boarding schools are very different to many other boarding schools around the world. In Denmark we live on a boarding school for one year, but we can go home in weekends, some weekends must we go home and others we must stay.

We started the 9th of August, 2009. And now, after a month, this is the best thing I have ever tried to do, imagine to live with your friends all the time, to go to school with them, to laugh with them, eat, sleep, cry, and make fun together with them. It’s the best thing you ever can do to yourself!

Om my school we live in rooms where we are 3 or 4 students. It’s nice and lovely to live so many in one room, you’re never alone, and that is a very, very good feeling.

In the end of September we are going to Germany, to a village called Borgwedel. We are going to be away for 5 days. In that time where must see a lot of things. In the area near Borgwedel, we shall see a town called Slesvig and the old Danish fortress Danevirke.

In the end of March we all shall go to different countries, the countries where we could choose to go to were; Germany, Poland, France, Spain, Lithuania, Italy. We are going to be away for 1 week and live with a boy or girl in the country which we have choosen and go with them to school and live with them in the weekend.

Eisbjerghus
Julie Bligaard 2009

Boarding schools

*Efterskole is a Danish concept; it’s a kind of a boarding school. You can go to an efterskole in either 8th grade (14-15 years old), 9th grade (15-16 years old) or after finishing the public school, which is for nine years – you can take what we call a 10th grade (16-17 years old). There aren’t really similar schools in USA or England – so there isn’t really a word for it in English – therefore I’ll just write efterskole – and you’ll know what I mean. While you go at efterskole, you go to school 5 days a week, then you can decide if you want to stay for the weekend and relax with your friends, or go home to your parents and siblings. There is over 200 efterskoler in Denmark; each one of these has different opportunities and subjects. I’ve chosen Eisbjerghus efterskole which is what you can call a pretty international efterskole. Besides ordinary English, I have Cambridge English – in this subject it’s more about talking English, getting a better accent and so on. In the end of the year, can you choose to take a Cambridge English exam which will be checked by teachers from Cambridge University. Besides the English, I got French as a subject. Other students here have chosen to learn German, Spanish or Italian. In the middle of the school year, everyone is going to visit another European country as exchange student; the student that we visit will then come to visit us here at the school. So as you can tell, this efterskole is pretty international. I’m going to visit Spain as an exchange student, and therefore I’m involved in this Red Cross Denmark – Uganda project, which I find very interesting.

So I would like to tell you about the life and the everyday on my efterskole – Eisbjerghus efterskole.

I’ve chosen to talk about my wednesday – a totally normal wednesday here at the efterskole look like this:

I live with 3 other girls in a room, one of them might need a bath, others need to put on make-up or fix their hair - So we wake up around 6.15 in the morning. Then there is breakfast from 7.00 to 7.30, all the students eat together in our big dining hall. From 7.30-8.00 we have to go clean our rooms. From 8.00-8.30 we have this morning “get together thing”, where we watch the news and then one of the teachers tell us a story, sing with us or something like that. Then there are the lessons, at an ordinary wednesday I have: math, Multi Art – which is one of my two self chosen subjects, that I have every week, then I have French and English. In between the lessons are there a warm lunch and small breaks, which make the day seem lighter and easier. After the lessons we’ve got our daily exercise to do, it’s either walking or cycling. Then it’s time for cleaning up a sudden area with your roommates. By then it’s almost 17.30 and then it’s time for dinner. After dinner around 18.00 o’clock, we’ve got something called “silence hour” or “homework hour” in this hour we have to stay in our room and make homework or maybe take a nap. In the evening is there often what we call evening activities, I could be a quiz with some of the teachers or maybe some exercise. We have to be in our room by 22.15, and the lights must be switched off by 22.45 and then it’s goodnight and hello to a very deep sleep.

I might sound like we don’t have any spare time at all, but as soon as you have gotten used to the daily routine, it’s very nice being at efterskole. You’re never alone, you got your new best friends around you all the time, I mean, how lucky could you be?

Written by: Emma 10th grade at Eisbjerghus efterskole.

Life Planning Skills

Bordings Friskole

Frijsenborg Efterskole

Eisbjerghus Efterskole

Eisbjerghus Efterskole
We all believe our school is amazing. Eisbjerghus is a boarding school, placed in a small city called Nørre Åby. The school is placed 300 metres from the train station and 2 minutes from the centre of the city.
Boarding schools in Denmark are called “efterskoler”. A boarding school is a place where you study and live at the same time. Of course we’re allowed to go home in the weekends and holidays, but we stay here all week studying, living, being with our friends and having fun at the same time.
Right now there are about 263 boarding schools in Denmark and 28.500 young people living there.

So, our School is, as I mentioned before, called Eisbjerghus Efterskole. Right now, we are 124 students, 53 boys and 71 girls. We live in separate rooms of 3 and 4 pupils.
We have 18 teachers here and about 25-30 different subjects such as language, creative subjects and sport.
We’re very eager to be an international school. We travel twice a year. 1 trip where the whole school travels together and then an exchange trip, where we live with a host family in different countries. This year we’re going to Spain, France, Germany, Poland, Lithuania and Italy.

So far, I think these last 4 weeks has been the most amazing weeks ever. And it’s crazy because it already
feels like we’ve been here for years. I love life on a boarding school! J
Eva L. Gottschalk. J

Skals

Skals Efterskole is a boarding school, and there are 128 students at the school. It is located in a little city called Skals. Skals Efterskole is a unisex school.

Daily life:

All the students live at the school. They sleep, eat and have their free time at the school. The students live in five houses, with 32 students in each. On each floor there are 4 bedrooms, and in each there are four to five students.

The students at Skals Efterskole are always together. So you’re never alone if you are student at Skals Eftersklole. The students in SIP doesn’t have lessons like the other classes

Subjects:
· Danish
· English
· German
· French
· Spanish
· Mathematics
· Physics
· Gymnastics
· Drawing
· Football (soccer)
· Rugby
· Geography
· History
· Social studies
· Biology
· Textile-workshop
· Science of movies
· Drama
· Ballgames
· Music
· It/media
· Psychology
· Handball
· Rhythm
· Politics
· MAS (it means: lots of sweat)
· Swimming
· Basketball
· SIP (project lessons)

Some of the subjects are choose able.

The SIP class (Skals International Project class):

The SIP class is very different from the other classes at Skals Efterskole. The SIP students are making projects instead of normal things, like German and math.

Peter Kjærgaard
Skals Continuation School